Have you ever ever the saying that you should “Fake it ‘till you make it”? This expression means that a person should imitate the confidence or skills that they need in order to succeed in what they are doing in the hopes that it will eventually feel real. Having fake confidence will eventually become real confidence. But how useful is this popular expression in real life, especially when you go through challenges and can’t help but think negative thoughts?
In an episode of Breaktime Breakthroughs on Plus Network, training and Management Consultant Mondo Castro shares how you can construct a positive experience for yourself. American author Zig Ziglar once said that, “You are what you are and where you are because of what’s gone into your mind.”
Your behavior is ultimately channeled outwards, affecting everything you work on and everyone you get in contact with. Castro adds that in order to construct a positive experience, you need to construct a more positive you. It is important for us to be aware of what we say to ourselves, as the mind lends much power to our self-talk.
What are the things that we tell ourselves on our dark days? It is important to focus on this, for what has been programmed in our brains manifests itself in our behavior. Castro quotes author T. Harv Eker, who said that“no thought lives in our head rent-free.”Each thought that you will have will either be an investment or cost. Every thought that we have will either move you towards happiness and success or away from it, or either empower or disempower you.
Thus, it is important to choose our thoughts wisely, as our dark days could lead to darker days if we do not watch and are not mindful of our thoughts. How then, can we reject claims to negative thinking? Castro asks: Do we clear our minds and wait for the perfect time to take action? Do we take action and pray that the perfect mindset follows?
According to psychologist and philosopher William James, “action seems to follow feeling.” Castro, however, believes that action and feeling go together, and by regulating the action, which under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling. For instance, moving from the gloom and into the light gives us the feeling of happiness, while a simple act like smiling at others sends out a request in our body that kickstarts an emotional transference. By acting and speaking as if cheerfulness were already there, the actual feeling will follow.
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